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Single Women Travelers and Greek Gods

12/7/2009

 
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Warning: This blog post, brought to you by popular demand, is intended for mature adult audiences only. If there are any teens or tweens out there—I don’t want to anger your parents, so you best skip this post.

You’re a go-to-it kind of Gal. If something needs doing, you’re the one to do it. You’re self-sufficient, organized, intelligent, and in great shape. You’ve worked hard to create the life you desire, and are in control of just about everything that can be controlled. You’ve put in long hours for your time off and earned the vacation of your dreams.
Because you are independent and enjoy a change of scenery, you’ve decided to head to Greece.
You’ve heard that it’s a safe place for single women travelers.


Well, you may want to rethink a few details. Although you may head off to Greece alone, unless you’re Billie Jean’s twin sister, you aren’t going to be alone for long. (I’m talking the tennis star, folks, not Michael Jackson’s Billie Jean) Even the Billie Jean situation can be remedied with your first trip to a topless beach. No disrespect to Billie Jean, by the way. She has accomplished oodles for us women, and I thank her for this. But, that’s my point. All of her amazing accomplishments will go unnoticed. In Greece, appearances are everything. And women, no matter how accomplished or brilliant, are seen as women first.

Take my first trip. I had just finished twenty-five years of education, completed my residency in obstetrics and gynecology and was literally dying to get my body (and soul) over to Greece. I had planned two lovely, serene, brainless, anonymous months. Well, I guess two out of four isn’t bad. I’m sure you, by now, can guess which two Greece delivered. Out of my two months there, I spent only five days alone.

There’s the feminine thing, but there’s also the social thing. Greeks see a single woman traveling alone and, once they’re convinced you’re not a putana (the same word in Greek and Italian), they all take pity on you. Forget anonymity. Forget autonomy. Greeks, if you are unaware of this fact, are highly social beings. If you’re hoping for anonymity, stay in the U.S. Forget about Greece. Heck, people still bump into me, acting like my long-lost relatives, recognizing me from previous trips. Who are these people?

So let’s tackle the single female thing first. When you are alone, you are available. You are, literally, free, the Greek word for unmarried. And I’m talking both meanings. Every woman is the same to every (older than you) Greek man. Age discrepancies do not compute, as long as the man is the older one.  As for me, within the first hour of my arrival on my Greek island destination a certain Greek God blocked my way, his perfectly sculpted body perched precariously atop a tiny motorbike--hard to ignore, even if he hadn’t been screaming at me in Greek. Lord knows I tried, unsuccessfully. He finally asked in English, “Why are you not speaking to me?” And I answered, “Because I don’t understand what you are saying.”

Enter my first Greek boyfriend—which brings me to my next point. If you truly want to be protected from Greek men, you have two options:

#1. Do not leave your room. This, however, is not a fail-safe method, since there are an awful lot of Greek men who already know where you are…the taxi driver who dropped you off, the owner of your hotel, the guy down the street at the kiosk, the men on the main street who stared at you as you got out of the taxi, the guy waiting on the side-street below your balcony--just hoping to get a glimpse of you, preferably naked…

#2. Get a (temporary) Greek boyfriend. (They are too high-maintenance to keep long-term. Believe me, I should know.) No one else will touch you, literally and figuratively, because you are his property now, and he will protect you. It’s as if you have an invisible diamond layer of skin, one you are clueless about—clueless, that is, until he dumps you (but that’s another story).  The code is clear. Greek men don’t mess with other Greek men’s women (doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, but it definitely takes two). You’re thinking, but then I won’t be alone. Women, forget the “alone” thing; it’s not going to happen. Were you listening?

I recommend #2, after years of rigorous personal testing. If you aren’t yet convinced, I have an exercise for you. When you first arrive in Greece, walk into any empty cafe or taverna (a task in itself), and sit down. Bet you that the next group of Greeks—and it will be a group—to walk in will sit down right next to you.

So, I’m wishing you a lovely brainless trip to Greece. Please remember to send pics of your personal Greek Gods. Kalo Taksidi!

Oh, and because there are always a few in every reading crowd—please please don’t take me so seriously! Don’t need anyone blaming me for STIs or heartbreak! (and no, of course all Greek men are not like this. Honestly!)

Bex
12/7/2009 07:08:40 am

Ahhhhh - how true! As an English woman living currently living in Greece, I have to add that living here presents its issues too! It is a very bipolar society and goes from the sublime to the ridiculous! Ie: full on attention one minute (the fish shop man gave me a squid in the absence of flowers the other day!) to no attention whatsoever FOR WEEKS ON END, leaving one wondering if you have forgotten to put on deodrant that morning, or if, indeed, people view you as a putana after all!!!
One other thing I have to agree with, Rebecca: LTR (long term relationship) is WAY too high maintanence!

Rebecca link
12/7/2009 07:18:21 am

LOL. I wish I had received squid instead of some of the other offers. ;)

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12/7/2009 12:01:52 pm

Very cute post

maria v link
12/7/2009 04:12:07 pm

very funny!

GGWorld link
12/11/2009 05:20:09 am

Wonderful post! Once u give in graciously, it's great to feel wanted, so to speak! Enjoy it... :)

Adrian link
12/27/2009 02:33:32 pm

Makes me want to pack my bags. Here in America, if you are bigger than a size 6, you get so used to being invisible to ALL men. I think it would be delightful to spend a week or two being a Greek Goddess!

Rebecca link
12/28/2009 12:31:36 am

I see we have another convert, Adrian. Welcome!

Helena
2/17/2010 06:21:54 pm

Greek mothers have trouble severing the umbilical cords. I often found Greek men somewhat lacking in emotional maturity, and marrying women who would mother them. Many have never lived away from home except when they were doing army service, or studying/working abroad. And then they came back to living with mom. Their mothers could reduce them to quivering wrecks while being actually present or even on the phone!

Greek men don't do a lot of one-on-one dating. It's often him and his "parea" (friends, company). He may also turn up 2 hours late because that's what Greeks do!

Greeks stare. It's just what they do. You'll find yourself stared at more in Greece than you have ever been stared at in your whole life. Greek men stare shamelessly. Like it, get used to it, because they're not going to stop it because you say so!

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7/27/2010 04:46:16 pm

I just love your blog ! It's so summerish delicious. Greeks sounds like stalkers to me now, but i know that's not true. They are indeed very very protective and can be soo much fun.

Rebecca link
7/28/2010 06:49:43 am

Glad you're enjoying my blog and the Greek men!

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8/11/2010 02:22:07 am

Hi, that's a really funny article, I'm a guy and even I think the Greeks are a little too possessive with the girls and not only (see Sparta). But all the Europeans are friendly and almost impolitely familiar in the social interactions compared to the Americans. I'm glad you enjoyed a little corner of our old continent.


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